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But first, who is this for?
Whether you're struggling in your current relationship or seeking understanding from a past one, Creating Conversational Equality is for you.
Join TalkingWise on a transformative journey towards healthier communication.
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Lost for Words in Your Relationship?
Find Your Voice with 'Creating Conversational Equality'!
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Tired of feeling unheard and disrespected in your relationships? Struggling to find the right words to express yourself and being labelled as 'difficult', 'crazy', or 'too much' when you do try to?
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Maybe it makes you feel churned up inside, causing you to question yourself.
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TalkingWise is here to tell you that it doesn't make you 'diffcult' to be upset or angry at being disrespected and controlled in communication.
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It is often necessary to get help navigating the complexities of controlling communication from specialists like Dr Torna Pitman, who understand what you're going through.
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Say goodbye to the turmoil of self-doubt; enrol now below.
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It has honestly changed my life. I feel freedom and pure joy happiness from knowing conversational equality, which helps me get on with my life and not be conversationally controlled by my ex-partner...I feel empowered. Thank you so much Torna, this has really freed me from conversational control.
Sarah, Client
This pivotal information has not been explored so deeply before in learning about unequal relationships...brilliant information that examines the core of the issue.
Sally, Workshop Participant
This has all explained how I was so easily controlled by the conversations in my relationship and I didn't realise it, I was a 'sitting duck'...I finally feel free...I think everyone should have this information
Lillian Client
Are you feeling trapped in unhealthy communication?
You may have tried seeing a therapist or couples counsellor with little progress.
You've tried talking to your partner. Either they're not interested in changing things or are just as confused as you are.
You feel like you're going around in circles.
Or, perhaps you don't have a partner currently but want to learn for next time.
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Dr Torna Pitman has helped countless people being controlled in communication. She understands that it's not a simple situation and that there are many factors that overlap and make it hard to see what's really going on.
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She has watched the cobwebs fall from many of her client's eyes when they explored their communication dynamics and realised how one-sided their relationships were.
Most of us weren't taught how to have healthy conversations growing up, so it makes sense that many of us struggle to have equal discussions, causing relationship problems.
Creating Conversational Equality derives from Torna's research, counselling, and practitioner work on the core issues underpinning relationship pain and disconnection- and it starts in the conversations.
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She coined the term 'Conversational Control' to explain the dynamics in controlling communication that leads to a relationship being unfair and disrespectful, with one person routinely coming off second best.
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Find out more about Torna here, and for further information on her research on both Conversational Control and Coercive Control, head to this page.
Does Conversational Control only apply to folks in relationships?
Certainly not! It is the primary focus, but understanding conversational dynamics will help your:
Relationships with friends.
Relationships with family members.
Relationships with colleagues (being aware that if there is a hierarchy at play, there is less chance of achieving Conversational Equality because of the power imbalance).
Even your interactions with strangers will shift, especially when you are feeling disrespected...you will have some techniques under your belt to maintain your power.
The Course Experience
Extensive Support and Resources
There is an extensive resource list to support your learnings:
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Join the free, vibrant and supportive Facebook Community: Engage with fellow learners, receive valuable insights, and stay motivated on your journey.
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Small Group Support Sessions: Show up to Torna's free weekly sessions, where you'll have the opportunity to ask any questions you may have or be there to listen and absorb.
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1:1 sessions with Torna: Explore the opportunity to access the 1:1 sessions here.
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Comprehensive workbook: Dive into a carefully crafted workbook, a valuable companion that will guide you through the course. It provides a structured framework for reflection, exercises, and activities, allowing you to immerse yourself in the transformative process fully.
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Resource sheets: Access a wealth of techniques, reminders, and practical tips in the curated resource sheets. These handy references serve as quick guides to help you navigate challenging conversations and reinforce key learnings.
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Mapping Your Conversations: the main activity of the course is the 'Art of Mapping Our Conversations'. This specially designed resource sheet to complete guides you to map and analyze conversations in different domains of your relationship, providing invaluable insights and facilitating deeper understanding.
Lifetime Reference
Come back to the curriculum, resources, or Facebook group whenever you need a reminder, support, or to re-learn any lessons through fresh eyes. The separate resources will probably be what you return to the most, as they could be printed out and stuck on the fridge to help with everyday situations.
Here's how it works inside the course:
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Torna will teach in-depth lessons split into six modules, which all follow mini frameworks to make this as natural to learn as possible.
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The video lessons are transcribed, captioned, and searchable.
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Explainer videos in the course depict role-play examples of what you are learning.
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There is a comprehensive 77-page workbook, resources & Facebook group mentioned above to implement what you learn. You will be prompted when it's time to look at each resource/complete each activity.
A healthy conversation is a healthy conversation, regardless of gender, sexuality, or any other background!
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The Curriculum
Module One: The Roles of Conversations in Our Relationship
In Lesson One, you'll start to uncover the hidden elements that shape your conversations by learning about Conversational Control, Conversational Equality, and what Conversational Rights you have in your relationship.
Module Two: How to Recognise Conversational Control
Lesson Two unmasks the unfair tactics of Conversational Control. This eye-opening lesson will shed light on the hidden complexities of one-sided interactions. In addition, it will help to eliminate your self-doubt as you see through manipulative tactics that may be used.
Module Three: How to Understand Your Reactions to Conversational Control
Lesson Three will explore the significant connection between our emotions and how they influence our responses to Conversational Control, called the 'Response Cycle'. A strong understanding of this cycle will help you regain your power.
Module Four: How to Make Sense of Being Triggered by Conversational Control
Lesson Four uncovers the intricate links between trauma responses and Conversational Control. Discover how different trauma responses shape your reactions in controlling conversations, shedding light on the many consequences of Conversational Control.
Lesson Five is a crucial lesson as it equips you with a powerful toolkit of techniques for responding to Conversational Control. You will be given options which help you tailor it to your specific situation. It's time to reclaim your voice and attempt to reshape the dynamics of your relationship.
Module Five: How to Respond to Conversational Control
Lesson Six is an empowering session which serves as your compass, guiding you toward the next steps based on your unique circumstances and possibilities. Packed with invaluable reminders and guidelines, you will feel ready to put what you've learnt into practice.
Module Six: How to Proceed in Your Situation
Upgrade Your Experience: Inside the course platform, you have the opportunity to add 1:1 Coaching to supplement your new knowledge and journey.
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1:1 Coaching/Counselling With Dr Torna Pitman
$120 AUD per hour session
What to expect:
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Torna provides online help for current or past relationship dynamics, particularly unequal relationships, Conversational Control and Coercive Control.
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​You can expect 1:1 coaching and counselling help for your particular situation.
Please visit the TalkingWise website here for more information, including Conversational Control.
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