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Online Course with Dr Torna Pitman
Weekly Group Coaching & Facebook Community Included In Price
But first, who is this for?
Whether you're struggling in your current relationship or seeking understanding from a past one, Creating Conversational Equality is for you.
Join TalkingWise on a transformative journey towards healthier communication.
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Lost for Words in Your Relationship?
Find Your Voice with 'Creating Conversational Equality'!
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Tired of feeling unheard and disrespected in your relationships? Struggling to find the right words to express yourself and being labelled as 'difficult', 'crazy', or 'too much' when you do try to?
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Maybe it makes you feel churned up inside, causing you to question yourself.
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TalkingWise is here to tell you that it doesn't make you 'diffcult' to be upset or angry at being disrespected and controlled in communication.
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It is often necessary to get help navigating the complexities of controlling communication from specialists like Dr Torna Pitman, who understand what you're going through.
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Say goodbye to the turmoil of self-doubt; enrol now below.
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It has honestly changed my life. I feel freedom and pure joy happiness from knowing conversational equality, which helps me get on with my life and not be conversationally controlled by my ex-partner...I feel empowered. Thank you so much Torna, this has really freed me from conversational control.
Sarah, Client
This pivotal information has not been explored so deeply before in learning about unequal relationships...brilliant information that examines the core of the issue.
Sally, Workshop Participant
This has all explained how I was so easily controlled by the conversations in my relationship and I didn't realise it, I was a 'sitting duck'...I finally feel free...I think everyone should have this information
Lillian Client
Are you feeling trapped in unhealthy communication?
You may have tried seeing a therapist or couples counsellor with little progress.
You've tried talking to your partner. Either they're not interested in changing things or are just as confused as you are.
You feel like you're going around in circles.
Or, perhaps you don't have a partner currently but want to learn for next time.
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Dr Torna Pitman has helped countless people being controlled in communication. She understands that it's not a simple situation and that there are many factors that overlap and make it hard to see what's really going on.
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She has watched the cobwebs fall from many of her client's eyes when they explored their communication dynamics and realised how one-sided their relationships were.
Most of us weren't taught how to have healthy conversations growing up, so it makes sense that many of us struggle to have equal discussions, causing relationship problems.
Creating Conversational Equality derives from Torna's research, counselling, and practitioner work on the core issues underpinning relationship pain and disconnection- and it starts in the conversations.
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She coined the term 'Conversational Control' to explain the dynamics in controlling communication that leads to a relationship being unfair and disrespectful, with one person routinely coming off second best.
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Find out more about Torna here, and for further information on her research on both Conversational Control and Coercive Control, head to this page.
Does Conversational Control only apply to folks in relationships?
Certainly not! It is the primary focus, but understanding conversational dynamics will help your:
Relationships with friends.
Relationships with family members.
Relationships with colleagues (being aware that if there is a hierarchy at play, there is less chance of achieving Conversational Equality because of the power imbalance).
Even your interactions with strangers will shift, especially when you are feeling disrespected...you will have some techniques under your belt to maintain your power.
The Course Experience
Extensive Support and Resources
There is an extensive resource list to support your learnings:
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Join the free, vibrant and supportive Facebook Community: Engage with fellow learners, receive valuable insights, and stay motivated on your journey.
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Small Group Support Sessions: Show up to Torna's free weekly sessions, where you'll have the opportunity to ask any questions you may have or be there to listen and absorb.
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1:1 sessions with Torna: Explore the opportunity to access the 1:1 sessions here.
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Comprehensive workbook: Dive into a carefully crafted workbook, a valuable companion that will guide you through the course. It provides a structured framework for reflection, exercises, and activities, allowing you to immerse yourself in the transformative process fully.
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Resource sheets: Access a wealth of techniques, reminders, and practical tips in the curated resource sheets. These handy references serve as quick guides to help you navigate challenging conversations and reinforce key learnings.
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Mapping Your Conversations: the main activity of the course is the 'Art of Mapping Our Conversations'. This specially designed resource sheet to complete guides you to map and analyze conversations in different domains of your relationship, providing invaluable insights and facilitating deeper understanding.
Lifetime Reference
Come back to the curriculum, resources, or Facebook group whenever you need a reminder, support, or to re-learn any lessons through fresh eyes. The separate resources will probably be what you return to the most, as they could be printed out and stuck on the fridge to help with everyday situations.
Here's how it works inside the course:
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Torna will teach in-depth lessons split into six modules, which all follow mini frameworks to make this as natural to learn as possible.
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The video lessons are transcribed, captioned, and searchable.
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Explainer videos in the course depict role-play examples of what you are learning.
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There is a comprehensive 77-page workbook, resources & Facebook group mentioned above to implement what you learn. You will be prompted when it's time to look at each resource/complete each activity.
A healthy conversation is a healthy conversation, regardless of gender, sexuality, or any other background!
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The Curriculum
Module One: The Roles of Conversations in Our Relationship
In Lesson One, you'll start to uncover the hidden elements that shape your conversations by learning about Conversational Control, Conversational Equality, and what Conversational Rights you have in your relationship.
Module Two: How to Recognise Conversational Control
Lesson Two unmasks the unfair tactics of Conversational Control. This eye-opening lesson will shed light on the hidden complexities of one-sided interactions. In addition, it will help to eliminate your self-doubt as you see through manipulative tactics that may be used.
Module Three: How to Understand Your Reactions to Conversational Control
Lesson Three will explore the significant connection between our emotions and how they influence our responses to Conversational Control, called the 'Response Cycle'. A strong understanding of this cycle will help you regain your power.
Module Four: How to Make Sense of Being Triggered by Conversational Control
Lesson Four uncovers the intricate links between trauma responses and Conversational Control. Discover how different trauma responses shape your reactions in controlling conversations, shedding light on the many consequences of Conversational Control.
Lesson Five is a crucial lesson as it equips you with a powerful toolkit of techniques for responding to Conversational Control. You will be given options which help you tailor it to your specific situation. It's time to reclaim your voice and attempt to reshape the dynamics of your relationship.
Module Five: How to Respond to Conversational Control
Lesson Six is an empowering session which serves as your compass, guiding you toward the next steps based on your unique circumstances and possibilities. Packed with invaluable reminders and guidelines, you will feel ready to put what you've learnt into practice.
Module Six: How to Proceed in Your Situation
Upgrade Your Experience: Inside the course platform, you have the opportunity to add 1:1 Coaching to supplement your new knowledge and journey.
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1:1 Coaching/Counselling With Dr Torna Pitman
$120 AUD per hour session
What to expect:
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Torna provides online help for current or past relationship dynamics, particularly unequal relationships, Conversational Control and Coercive Control.
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​You can expect 1:1 coaching and counselling help for your particular situation.
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What software do I need in order to complete this course?You will need a Google Drive account (if you have Gmail, you will have a Google Drive account) to access the downloadable resources. If you don't have one, it's easy to create a log-in, and it doesn't take long. However, you will be prompted to do this by Google Drive if you try to open a document without a Google Drive account. You will need a Facebook account if you wish to participate in the private community. Apologies for any inconvenience there. The course is hosted on Searchie, which you will be taken to when you register. It will then prompt you to create a Searchie log-in. You won't need to download anything for this.
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Does TalkingWise serve every gender?Yes. TalkingWise believes that anyone who wants to learn this framework to transform their relationships should be able to. That is why, despite the more controlling partner being often a cis-man, the on-demand course and coaching sessions is open to all genders, including cis-men. TalkingWise wants to be explicit that all folks of marginalised genders and sexualities are welcome and encouraged to join. Of course, this includes women, non-binary folk, trans people of all genders, as well as any other member of the LGBTQIA2S+ community. A healthy conversation is a healthy conversation, regardless of gender or sexuality!
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How do I know I will feel safe in the Facebook Community and Small-Group Support Sessions?Please be assured that in the Facebook Community and Small-Group Support sessions, no discrimination will be tolerated. Respectful and open discussions will be accepted, but the community will be moderated carefully to ensure everyone feels comfortable and heard. If you ever feel uncomfortable, contact Torna, and she will take your concerns very seriously. Conversational Equality is a sensitive topic, and there is no room for judgmental/discriminatory attitudes or assumptions in TalkingWise. You can read about TalkingWise's focus on creating a safe environment in our TalkingWise Code of Conduct.
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How long do I have access to the course content and community for?Life-time access to the course content! Currently, the same for the community, as long as it stays on Facebook (rather than on a community platform if expanded).
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Will the course be of less value if I'm not currently in a relationship?No, you can complete all the activities with a past relationship in mind, taking you from confusion to clarity just as it would for a current relationship. The only difference would be that you wouldn't need to implement the TalkingWise framework into your relationship if you aren't currently in one. However, you can practice the techniques with any relationship, whether with a friend, family member, or even a colleague.
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Do you serve folks who are suffering from Coercive Control/Family Violence?Sorry but no, not in this course and community. This is for the more 'garden-variety' situations of Conversational Control. If your relationship is abusive, this course will help you understand how Conversational Control operates in your current or past relationship. However, it may not be safe, wise or possible for you to make any changes if you are in a relationship with a Coercive Controller or experiencing Family Violence/Domestic Abuse right now. Whereas this course will undoubtedly help clarify what is going on within the conversations in your relationship, you're strongly advised to get help from a counselling service where you live. They'll need to specialise in Domestic Abuse/Family Violence. Or you could contact the Family Violence hotlines in your country/state. Dr. Torna Pitman has a private counselling service that can cater to the more extreme versions of Conversational Control in Coercive Control. You can find the link here.
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Who is Dr Torna Pitman?Great question! You can find out here.
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Will this course suit folks from all different backgrounds?Yes, the TalkingWise framework can be applied universally, but different backgrounds and cultures view equality differently. Therefore, Conversationally Equality may not always be possible. However, TalkingWise can help those in a situation with fewer rights understand that they themselves are OK. Their reactions are normal. If you have any questions, please contact us here. TalkingWise is happy to answer any questions you may have!
Please visit the TalkingWise website here for more information, including Conversational Control.
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